April 05 2014

Title

Secret of Successful relationships

Description:

In today’s (5th April 2014) morning Satsang, Paramahamsa Nithyananda elaborates on how to have success in life by practicing Advaita. We think that everything ends in victory but in fact, victory comes from a space of violence, incompletion and grabbing from others – win or lose, we will take another birth from this karma. On the other hand, Advaita is success. It shows us how to be successful through expansion, creativity and completion. Let us not accept victory if we can’t have success from Advaita.

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Paramahamsa Nithyananda, success, Advaita, space, birth, karma, expansion, creativity, completion, victory.

Transcript:

Nithyanandeshwara Samaarambhaam

Nithyanandeshwari Madhyamaam |

Asmath Aachaarya Paryanthaam

Vandhey Guru Paramparaam ||

I welcome all the samajis, satsanghis, sitting with us through Nithyananda TV, Lotus TV, Sadhna TV, Eshwar TV, Janashree TV, and two-way video-conferencing all over the world.

The cities sitting with us through two-way video-conferencing: Kuala Lumpur-Palani, Seattle-Chidambaram, Ohio-Prayag, Charlotte-Srisailam, Simi Valley-California, Washington DC-Sripuram, Toronto-Kailasam, Vancouver-Bhubaneshwar, Oklahoma-Somanatham, Singapore-Singapuram, Slovakia, Port Washington-New York, San Jose-Madurai, Bangalore-Indiranagar, Grasse-France, Sun Prairie-Wisconsin, Dubai-Vaidyanatham, Dallas-Dwaraka, Wellington-New Zealand, Seremban-Sivakasi, New Mexico, Philadelphia, Hong Kong, Dakota Dunes, Winston-Salem-North Carolina, Port Washington-New York, Brampton-Canada, Selang-Malaysia, Scottsdale-Arizona, Hollywood, Oman-Sivagangai, Jorpati-Nepal, Houston-Kalahasti, London-Kashi, Bangalore, Ahmedabad-Gujarat, High Point-North Carolina, Hyderabad-Gupta Kashi, Minot North Dakota, Philip Island-Australia.I welcome all of you with my love and blessings.

I will continue to expand on Living Advaitha. I’ll continue to expand.

Please listen last few days I am working with you all making the Advaithic experience, the non-dual experience as living space. Please understand, the greatest gift you can receive from an incarnation is the permanently getting established in Advaitha, means the lasting experience of non-dual consciousness. Everything else can be memory.

Please come to the space of listening.

Whatever you receive from an incarnation other than Advaithic experience is waste of life. Do not miss the space of Advaitha when you have a great fortune of associating with an incarnation. The space of Advaitha is the best gift you will receive from an incarnation.

Second important truth you need to understand is, it is not difficult. It is not at all difficult. You just have to DO it! It is neither difficult nor easy. It just needs a technique, knowledge, understand? I don’t want to say it is easy; then you will take it for granted and never do it. I don’t want to say it is difficult, because it is NOT difficult; it just needs a simple knowledge and your decision to do it. First decide to experience Advaithic consciousness, the space of Advaitha with a small group.

Hope all of you understand the process I am putting all of you through. Last two days, all of you have prepared your teamily and the list of your incompletions. Today I requested all of you be here and I am seeing through two-way video-conferencing many of you and your teamily members. I know the whole teamily may not be here but my blessings for you and your sincere effort.

I am very happy that the whole Sangha is taking up this experiencing Advaitha in a very sincere way. Please understand all great spiritual awakening happens only by the experience of non-dual consciousness, Advaitha Sathya. Sometimes people may feel one life is not enough to experience Advaitha. People may feel it is very difficult to experience Advaitha. Whatever you may feel, but the truth is Advaitha is the ultimate, and it is possible. This should be your lifestyle.

So, let me come to the spiritual process all of you are going through:

First thing, you all chose your Teamily members.

Second, penning down all the incompletions you have with your teamily members.

Third, today is the third process you are going to start. Before you start the Completion with all your teamily members, explain what is Completion and how it is going to help both of you. Please understand, your teamily members should be very clear how the Completion process is going to help him also. You should make him understand. You should listen yourself. You should listen to your own words. You should be able to listen to your speaking and be able to speak into his listening.

Please listen. We all only know speaking while others are speaking, listening when the other is silent! Be very clear, you should be able to listen when you speak. You should be able to speak into the other person’s listening.

So, today, you will explain to your whole teamily. If they are there physically around you sit with them and explain, especially if they have not done Inner Awakening program. If they have done Inner Awakening program recently, then they will know what is the process of Completion. Then your job is less. If they are not initiated into Inner Awakening, if they are not regular satsanghis, you may have to explain to them how incompletions makes both weak.

Please understand if your hand is broken, not only you become weak; the broken part also becomes weak. The broken part is now useful only for the dog, or cat, or eagle to eat, nothing more. It is just bone and flesh. Not only you become weak the broken part also becomes weak. If the hand is completed and healed, not only you become strong, that broken part also becomes strong, because now it is your hand. So, both of you should understand the necessity for Completion. That’s first. The whole teamily should understand the necessity of Completion.

If some of your teamily members are not physically there around you, try to Skype call. Please don’t do phone call just audio; because, the communication, 90% of the communication happens through visualization. And especially, the process of Completion is not just communication, it is communion. It is not just communication, it is communion! So, try to Skype call. Means, you and your teamily should be able to see each other and speak.

Third, please listen. Third, very important thing if you are not able to do really Skype call, then just telephone is okay. But, the whole teamily should understand the necessity for Completion, why Completion is a necessity. And, after the whole team has understood the necessity for Completion, then start the Completion. Explain step-by-step.

Please listen, if you are going to do Completion with your whole teamily, try to have them around you physically or through Skype call. If will be great if all of you are present either physically or through Skype call with your whole teamily. If you can’t that is okay. Even with one by one you can do. If you can do it as whole group, it will be great, because when you are completing with one person, the second person’s many incompletions will melt away.

Please understand, people do not start hating you because you do something wrong to them directly. Even if they see or hear you have done wrong to somebody, they start creating incompletions about you. Osama has not done anything wrong to you directly. But the moment we hear he has done something wrong to 3000 lives - he has killed them killed we all start hating him and create incompletions about him. Same way, it is not that always all the incompletions about you are created because you directly do something wrong to somebody. Even if they hear you wronged somebody else they develop incompletions. Same way when people see you are really interested in Completion, you are sincere about completing, they get into Completion with you, they get completed with you.

So, when you sit with your whole teamily, sincerely start Completion even with one person. Many incompletions of the second, third persons will melt down. Please understand, that is why I insist that, as much as possible, sit with as many members as possible of your teamily together.

And when you explain about your incompletions with the other person, you will also explain why you have started developing this pattern. Please understand, the thumb rule is, no incompletion comes from outside. You are responsible for all incompletions. So when you sit as teamily, you start explaining about your incompletions to one person, you should explain from when in your life you started developing this incompletion pattern, when in your life you started developing this same pattern of incompletions.

And by the time you finish your Completion with the whole team, your whole teamily, everyone should know you are sincere about completing. Your sincerity about Completion completes everyone. Understand, just your sincerity, your authenticity that completes everyone.

And, then, once the first person has finished, the second person should start.

Today, even if it takes two-three hours, today is the date of Completion with the teamily.Completion with the teamily. From today I am going to actually take next one week to help you all continuously complete with your teamily, answer your other questions. If all of you are complete before the one week, then I may start moving to the next step. Otherwise....

Even the people who are watching the satsangh through Sadhna TV, please understand, even if you are not able to come on two-way video-conferencing, you can take this technique and process, start doing Completion with your team, with your family.

I tell you, this next few weeks we will raise the whole global consciousness to the peak possibility of Advaitha, to the peak experience of Advaitha.

Sometimes people ask me, ‘Are materialistic and outer world success also possible only from the space of Advaitha?’

Please understand, outer world victory is possible without Advaitha. But success is possible only from Advaitha! Victory is snatching from others. Success is creating and expanding. In a barren land if you create a country, it is success. Victory means, killing the existing tribes and snatching that property. For victory you don’t need Advaithic space; violence only is required; deep incompletion and powerlessness, arrogance to grab only is required. But, for success, creation, expansion, creativity, togetherness for that you have to have Advaitha, understand. Victory may not need Advaithic space. Success always needs Advaithic space, whether it is inner world or outer world.

I wanted to remind all of you very clearly, because you do not get Ganga water, don’t drink drainage water. Even if you be without drinking any water, that is great; but don’t go for drainage water just because Ganga water is not available nearby. Please understand it’s a proverb from Shri Ramakrishna. Same way, I tell you, don’t accept the victory if you can’t get success based on Advaitha. Sincerely, sincerely stand only for success based on Advaitha; you will get it. You will get it!

॥नित्यमद्वितीयमिष्टदैवतंनिरंजनम्॥

॥Nithyam Adhwitheeyam Ishta Daivatham Niranjanam॥

When you have Kalabhairava, who is established and giver of Adviteeya, Advaithic experience, as your Guru, you don’t need to give up on yourself. Please understand: ॥नित्यमद्वितीयमिष्टदैवतंनिरंजनम्॥॥Nithyam Adhwitheeyam Ishta Daivatham Niranjanam॥ in Kalabhairva Ashtakam, he is described as one “who is established in the non-dualistic space, who radiates non-dualistic space”. When you have Kalabhairava as your Guru, you do not need to give up on yourself.

I am also so happy to see the overflowing response in the Facebook continuously. The number of people sincerely deciding, resolving to live the space of Advaitha, to create the space of Advaitha and start forming your teamily.

Now, I just wanted to lead all of you step-by-step into the space of Advaitha and make you experience your life itself as the space of Advaitha. It is just living and radiating the Super-Consciousness.

So, please listen. Come to the space of listening.

Every step, every step you take towards the experience of Advaitha, Kalabhairava supports you, he is there with you, he is there to encourage you, because he loves to express through you. Please understand, in victory only one person can have. In success, everyone can have. Success is celebrated with togetherness. Victory is celebrated alone. In every war people may win, but they will be alone. In every creation, people will be successful, celebrating with the whole. So, understand, Advaitha is success. Advaitha is success!

As I committed with you all yesterday, I sincerely bless all of you, all the teamily. Let you all experience the ultimate Advaithic space, the ultimate Advaitha! Please understand, step-by-step I am leading you into the space of Advaitha with a small group. But I tell you, the goal is not just to experience Advaitha with eleven people or with your teamily. The goal is to experience Advaitha with the Whole. But, when you experience with your teamily, simply you will experience with the Whole. If you can swim in the swimming pool, you can never get drowned in the ocean. You may just need a little more training that is all! If you can swim in the swimming pool, you can never get drowned in the ocean. Only you may need to protect yourself from the sharks called “siddhis”. Please understand, siddhis should not swallow you; they should be under your control.

If you swim in the swimming pool, you will never get drowned in the ocean. Of course, when you move from swimming pool to ocean also, I’ll be there to make you comfortable there and train you and make you successful. Same way, when you experience Advaitha in the teamily and then with the whole universe, it will be easy for you. When you experience Advaitha with a teamily, you will never get drowned in the whole universe. There also you will be successful, experiencing Advaitha. And when you move from a teamily to universe, again I’ll be there guiding you all, supporting, making you experience step-by-step, caring, making all of you experience Advaitha. Making you all radiate Advaitha, gives me the tremendous job satisfaction, I am fulfilling the purpose why I happened. I feel I am fulfilling the commitment I gave to Planet Earth and the reason I assumed the body. The reason I assumed the body is the commitment I gave it to Planet Earth to remind humanity again and again of the powerful space of Advaitha and to be successful based on the space of Advaitha.

Whenever you try to win, whether you win or fail, the other part is going to come back in your life now or in the next birth as Karma. If you win, he is going to come back to fight with you. If you lose, he is going to come back; you are going to bring him back to fight with him. So, in victory, whether you win or lose, it is not end. In success, it is always Completion. Success is from Completion to Completion. Victory is from incompletion to incompletion.

So, today’s homework is:

Sit with the teamily. Explain to the teamily the Completion process, and start completing.

I bless you all. Let you all radiate with Integrity, Authenticity, Responsibility, Enriching and Causing eternal bliss, Nithyananda. Thank you.

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