May 14 2015 - 1
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Completion with other starts with the decision that completion with others needs to happen. First you have to take responsibility for everything around yourself, and decide that completion is necessary . Completion with others is not saying 'i am sorry', it is not apologising. It is not about being wrong or right. completion comes out of responsibility, not out of powerlessness. Feeling sorry comes from powerlessness. It is about declaring to drop the past and the incompletion. You will see that as soon as you do that, others will also up to completion. First step is to complete with someone random and invoke in them the person you feel incomplete with. Second step is to invoke the person in the mirror and complete with them. Then, only the third step, is the actual completion with the actual person. Call them, and complete. Take full responsibility and drop the past, and start with the new space of completion. Watch, share and like the video's and Subscribe to our channel to be notified of the next upload. click http://bit.ly/20j90wr to subscribe. Website and Social Media: http://www.nithyananda.org http://www.nithyananda.tv http://www.innerawakening.org https://twitter.com/SriNithyananda https://www.facebook.com/ParamahamsaNithyananda
How many of you, when you did the process yesterday – The World and My World – understood it is you who messed up everything in your life?
It is you, who is supposed to repair everything in the life.
How many of you understood that? Alright.
How many of you think we should really, really repair it?
Very seriously, sincerely you want to repair it?
I’ll give you step by step. How many of you think you don’t need to repair it, you are not responsible. Raise your hand. No, really I want to see. Maybe somebody will be thinking, ‘Ah, why should I?’ No, I want you to understand. Unless you decide, repairing cannot be done. Unless you decide, repairing cannot be done. Repairing cannot be done.
So please understand, listen. Listen. Today we start completing with others. Others means not just only your father, mother, husband, wife, brother, sister, the human beings around you. We will start the completion with everything with which you are living – your wealth, your health, your bag, your seat, your pets, your car, your house. Please understand, all these are living parts of your life. They may be dead objects, but they are living part of your life. See, a house may be a dead object but it is a living part of your life. How many of you understand what I am saying? It’s a very important component of your life.
First we will start completion with all the human beings with whom we are living.
First step: completion with everything; sorry, with every human being. First thing you need to do is deciding, ‘I have to bring completion with others, with whoever I am living. I have to bring completion with whoever I am living. Even if they don’t want, I will stretch my best and I will decide – I am in the space of completion. Whenever they want I am open to have them. I am open. I am going to be in the space of completion. Whenever they are also ready, it will become completely complete.’
Understand, completion with others does not mean you are going to apologize to them. No. Apologizing is not completion. Asking sorry is not – so many people were saying, ‘Sorry. I want to apologize.’ No! ‘I am sorry’ is not completion.
“I am deciding to drop hurting pattern in my life or any incompletion, misunderstanding, I am deciding to drop and I am deciding not to bring them, not to give life to it again.”
See, past – you can’t say you are wrong or you are right. No one can say, “you can’t say you are wrong, you are right.”
It is not apologizing. It is not feeling sorry for the past. No.
Deciding, ‘I am dropping this incompletion, hangover of the past and I will not allow this to happen once more.’
Completion is actually responsibility, not apologizing. See, apologizing or feeling sorry comes out of powerlessness but Completion comes out of responsibility. Understand the difference. Please listen. See the difference. Now when I am saying, ‘You need to complete with your mother, with your father, with your brother, with others’, I am not asking you to apologize. ‘Oh sorry. Oh sorry. Oh sorry. Buss buss’, No. No!
Feeling sorry comes from powerlessness. That is not completion. When you call, you explain, ‘This is what has been perceived by me. Here, I am not interested into looking into you are wrong. I am wrong. That will only create more and more anger, hatred and suppressed violence. I am only saying one thing, “I am ready to drop the past and its powerlessness, incompletion. I am declaring that I am dropping the past and I am complete. I don’t have incompletion and I will not create any incompletion anymore.’
Your decision and declaration, when it reaches them, you will suddenly they will open up and start coming towards completion. But first you need to be prepared.
The first step, preparation for you: sit with any one person in the hall. First invoke your mother in that person and complete. Then go to another one participant, invoke the father in the person and complete. Don’t invoke everybody in one person. No. One, one person. And with whoever you need to complete, here complete. Then, without the person, sit with the mirror and invoke that person in the mirror. Invoke your mother in the mirror. Talk loudly, not silent completion. No. Talk loudly as you are talking to your mother and complete. Invoke your father. Talk loudly as you are talking to your father and complete.
Listen. First step: with the participants you will sit and do completion.
Second step: with the mirror you will sit and talk and do the Completion.
Third, only you are going to call them and start talking to them. How many of you understand? First, do the first step and second step. If they are dead, by invoking in the mirror, if you do completion, that’s enough. And if there’s a legal problem, calling them, they may record and create a problem, you don’t need to call them.
(Unable to hear participant’s question)
Answer: Oh. If you know that they are still alive and if you have the ability to reach out to them, you should reach out. First, you don’t even go to that step. Let us first do these two completions and you’ll have a lot of questions. I’ll answer them. I’ll help you to do these two Completions first. That will take away the anger and vengeance and misunderstandings and suppressions you have. Let that come out first. Let you be healed. All that spicy chili anger, vengeance - everything will come out through the words. You will be ready to complete. If you directly now call them, you will only pick up more fight and come back with more mess up and incompletion. How many of you understand that?
That is why I am not going to let you call them now. You will start reasoning with them. ‘You are wrong. You are wrong. You are wrong.’ End of the call, more incompletion.
First, even if your relative or the person with whom you have to complete is in the hall, you will not talk to them directly. Even if they are in the hall, you will not talk to them directly. You will sit only with persons, other participants. Then you will only sit with the mirror. Then I’ll have one more session, answering your questions and I will also be doing a Shivoham process to heal your past; that part of the brain which records strong emotions. I’ll heal that part with the awakening of the kundalini. Then your tongue will have the sweetness, honey. Then you should call and ‘Honeyyyy’ (in a sweet tone). Otherwise ‘HONEY!’ The ‘Honey’ itself will be so frightening. It won’t be like a honey – honey bee! No, she is telling, ‘I don’t know but how you are catching the exact points.’ Ahhhh!
Yes, go ahead.
See, completion is not feeling sorry, feeling powerless. For example, you are going to call your mother. Sit with her. Explain from the beginning what all incompletions you developed with her. Make her understand very clearly – you are responsible for it and you are dropping it. You are not saying ‘Sorry’.
You are not becoming powerless about it. You are saying, ‘Yes. I am responsible. I don’t want to get into – who is right, who is wrong. Even if you are wrong, I am only responsible. I am dropping the past and now I want to start the new space with completion. Understand, I am dropping the past incompletion and I am starting the new space with completion.’
See, when you call, before you call them, I’ll give you the instruction. Simple introduction. You tell them, ‘I am going through a meditation program where I’m supposed to complete with myself and all the relatives, so I am calling you.’
Just add two, three lines.
“You are important person, part of my life, so only when we are complete, I can be complete. Now I am calling you. This, this, this, this has happened. Now I am realizing who is right, who is wrong is not the thing. I am responsible, so I am deciding to take the responsibility and bring completion.’ Understand. The other person should not feel you are weak. Other person should only feel that you are taking responsibility for it. All of you are getting it? Getting it? Yes, then?
Ah yes, when you talk to the volunteers, you talk in the language, when you talk to the participant, you talk in the language you are going to talk to that person – to your mother or to whoever – talk in that same language. The participant need not understand, and even to the mirror. Talk in the language you are going to talk.
(Inaudible comment from participant)
Swamiji’s response: Maybe when you meet him next time you’ll have to sit and communicate.
Shall we start now? Yes, any questions, come on. I’ll answer.
(Inaudible comment from participant) [Tamil reply from Swamiji.]
(Inaudible comment from participant)
Swamiji’s response: No, what I am saying, even if that person has done something wrong, he is the reason for the incompletion, but I am going to be responsible for the completion. So I am not bothered about ‘you may be the reason’ or not but I am going to take responsibility for the completion.
(Inaudible comment from participant)
Swamiji’s response: uh, no. I am not responsible for the abusal I went through, but I am responsible for the completion which I am going to bring now. You understand? You see, I have been attacked and abused so much. I’m not reason. I am the victim of the media attack, religious persecution. I am not reason for it but I am taking the responsibility to bring Completion.
(Inaudible comment from participant) Swamiji’s response: Same thing.
(Inaudible comment from participant) Swamiji’s response: Yes, so even if the other person is wrong, we will take the responsibility for the completion. Yes?
(Inaudible comment from participant)
Swamiji’s response: Is it independent whether we are…? Yes, yes yes. That person understands or accepts or not is secondary. (Inaudible comment from participant) It is you come to the completion space. It is working on you, mainly.